Saturday, July 17, 2010

How to Get Over Approach Anxiety - Tips to Make Approaching Women Become a Lot Easier




Any guy that tries to say that he has never felt any kind of approach anxiety before in his life is basically selling you a line. All guys feel some approach anxiety at least once in their lives. The problem really, is when approach anxiety keeps you from making the walk over to a woman that you find attractive. That is when you can be sure that you NEED to work on getting rid of your approach anxiety.



There are lots of different theories on approach anxiety; where it comes from, and why guys have to go through it. Theories on why it happens are just that and not really that important. What you really need to be able to do is to get over that anxious feeling when approaching a woman, and make it EASY on yourself.



Here are 3 tips on how to approach women without all of the anxious feelings:



1. Think of what the woman is feeling.



While guys feel anxious about the approach, women tend to feel anxious about BEING approached. Think of it like this. You are a woman just standing somewhere, minding your own business. And all of a sudden, some guy comes along and just wants to start a conversation with you for no reason at all. Well, you can imagine how that might make a woman feel, so keep that in mind.



2. One of the main reasons why guys feel anxious is because they wait too long.



The longer that you wait to walk on over to her, the harder it is going to be. I mean, why give yourself the time to think of all of the possible scenarios or the reasons why she might reject you. Thinking along those lines, you would probably NEVER get the nerve to approach a woman, and where is that going to get you? Alone on a Friday or Saturday night, that's what it will get you.



3. You have to build up your confidence when walking over to her.



The inner game is not nearly as sexy as pickup lines or other aspects of approaching and picking up women. But, if you neglect the inner game, then all of the other aspects are for nothing. See, you NEED to have that CONFIDENCE to create attraction with a woman. It's the main ingredient in the recipe of attraction, so don't let that confidence get neglected.


Should You Give Him a Second Chance - After He Broke Your Heart?



Dear friend, do you feel heart-broken right now? Do you feel that the man you love so much has betrayed your trust, your love, and everything in the relationship? Has he made a terrible mistake and is now begging to come back to you? Do you have serious doubt whether you should forgive him? Are you struggling between moving on with your life and letting him come back? Does part of you still deeply love him and want to be with him? If you have any of the above questions, this will be one of the most important articles you will ever read...



Before deciding to give him a second chance, there are 3 critical factors you must consider. Ladies, see, here is the thing: you should forgive as best as you can, but you must learn to protect your own heart. Making the wrong decision about a man that will lead to heartbreaks is one of the most cruel things a woman can do to herself. Don't make that mistake. Here are the 3 factors you must consider:



#1: Did He Cheat?



A man who has cheated on you should be left alone without any doubts. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Men who cheat will tell you all kinds of things such as "it was just a one-time thing," or "I won't do it again." Many times, he will even try to put the blame on you and make you feel that you're the source of the problems. Don't listen to those excuses. Research has shown that men who have cheated once will cheat again. The fact is that some men are aroused by doing something forbidden and wrong. It excites them. Every time his relationship starts to stabilize, he will seek out other women just because he needs the stimulation. Save yourself some trouble and say No to cheating men.



#2: Why He Wants to Get Back?



Another factor you want to consider is why he wants to get back with you. Is it because he wants to have something he can't have? Is it because he still loves you? If it's latter, you can consider taking him back. However, this time around, he needs to prove his love to you. Let him pursue you, impress you, and win you back. If he truly loves you, he will do whatever it takes to get you back. If not, it's a sign that he just wants to see if he can get a "friend with benefits" situation set up and have an on-again-and-off-again relationship. Also, don't have sex with him or go back to the old way until he has fully proven himself. You don't have time for any games.



#3: Can You Forgive the Past?



If a man has put in tremendous efforts to win you back and has truly touched your heart, now is the time you need to think about how likely it is you can forgive the past. See, the relationship won't work out, if you can't forgive him. If you do decide to take him back, you need to make a decision to zip up on the past. That's the only way to have the relationship succeed. Think of it as a bump on the road. You went past it and it's time to move forward...

10 Tips For a Happy Relationship




Relationships are hard work-- while some couples make it appear effortless, one will realize that being in a relationship means giving something of yourself and getting something of the other person. This requires a balancing act of give-and-take.



Here are 10 useful tips to ensure a happy and healthy relationship.



1. Get to know each other no matter how long you've been together.



Even if you've passed the 1-year mark, make it a point to get to know each other continuously. Each person is a work in progress, and you can be part of that process by getting to know the person's past, present and hopefully be part of his or her future.



2. Learn to sacrifice and compromise.



A relationship entails some sort of sacrifice and compromise. No matter how alike you are, there will be things that you will not necessarily agree on, and you need to be willing to accept that and meet halfway if need be.



3. Spend time together.



The most effective way to keep your relationship happy and strong is to spend time together. Allocate a day a week to spend with your loved one alone and make it a point to do something together.



4. Find common interests and enjoy them together.



If you are one of those "opposites attract" types of couples, then together, try to discover a new hobby that both of you can pursue. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it allows you to develop bonding over a common interest.



5. Surprise him or her every now and then.



Every person in a relationship loves a surprise. Occasionally plan one out for your loved and one and he or she will surely return the favor.



6. Settle problems as soon as possible.



Never leave an issue to settle passively. Always do your best to settle an argument before the day ends. If this is not possible, give yourself and your loved one some time to calm down and think about it. But always go back to it and resolve it before moving on to other things before it builds up and becomes a bitter grudge.



7. Listen, listen, listen.



Listening is one of the most important things in the relationship. Learn to listen for verbal and non-verbal messages.



8. Always want the best for the other.



Never try to limit your loved one - if the change is for the best, then encourage him or her to go for it.



9. Constantly let them know you love them.



It doesn't have to be actual "I love you's", but it can come in the form of little things that make them smile.



10. Love yourself too.



Don't forget to leave some love for yourself. After all, you cannot love someone else when you cannot love yourself.


Friday, July 16, 2010

Does My Boyfriend Really Love Me?


Love has been and always has been a tough subject, even more so when you are trying to find out if your love for someone is mutual. It will be an ongoing struggle for most people to understand what love is. However with a few simple steps it can be much easier to gauge if your boyfriend really loves you.




Don't expect a guy to remember every detail or date, it normally won't happen. Guys typically don't try to remember everything and this is normally a poor way to judge a man's love. However, when you do have a major anniversary, expect something thoughtful. While you shouldn't always expect something expensive, if he is very proud of the present or gift or it is something that holds a lot of meaning then it is probably a real love thing.



The second way to see if its true love is if the communication and desire to be with you is there. Now, normally this peaks early in the relationship or when something good is going on. If, over time, he still strives to spend time with you, then it is probably real love.



The last way to tell if he truly loves you is by seeing how much he values you and your time. If he is telling his friends how amazing you are, then most likely, he is telling them the truth. Guys typically won't lie about how much they like a girl. Usually a girl won't ever get this chance to hear it directly, but listening for keywords in conversations can yield the results you are looking for.